Steve, thank you for sharing your experience, and I'm so sorry about your situation. I know how I feel about drug use. Since I've never been addicted like the way she is nor the way you describe your gf, I don't know if I could ever sympathize, if that's the right word. I did take a step back from her and every day she asks me if I miss her or if I love her. I do...she says she misses me and wants me to say it back. Instead, I substitute it with "Ditto" as stupid as it sounds. She says to me, "I wish you would say the words." I tell her I wish things too. She keeps assuring me that she is "working" to get clean. I don't know what that means. I hope it doesn't mean what I think it sounds like...but there I go, thinking about it too much. It's hard, I know it is...for me....
It's all very confusing. A day without the "original" her, is like a day w/o air (dramatic). But, a day w/o worrying whether she's using or not is like a day of freedom.