Originally Posted by
cytagirl 
I tried so hard to help him and this is how he pays me back ...
This is where a program of recovery for yourself could give you some relief.
It's not personal, though I completely understand how you are feeling because I was the same way with my EXAH.
He's not doing it to you. He's just doing what an active alcoholic does.
I expect nothing from my 32 year old addict daughter...
nothing.
She's active in her disease, and therefore I keep my life separate from hers, and have minimal contact.
Were it not for my 15 year old granddaughter living with her, I'd have no contact at all.