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Old 10-18-2010, 06:01 AM
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Hollyanne
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Dear Cyta, so sorry. I am always a bit wary of commenting on the codependent thing as I am an alcoholic not codi.
I think it is a shame that so many good kind and loving people are wasted on addicts. It is soul destroying. Where are you? Why is he doing this? What did you do to deserve this coldness?
Nothing at all! You are a lovely person with loads to offer, but this guy is addicted and therefore your qualities are all for nothing when it comes to him.
Do you attend Alanon? You know deep down what you need to do. I always say, "what would you say to a friend in similar turmoil"?
You have to realise that you are in love with a fantasy. It/he is not real. Please, take yourself out of this equation. He has a long way to go and you do not need to stick around. "Better your own company, than bad company" Respect yourself. No contact, block his number. Go visit friends, hang out with people who love you back. Please?
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