I feel like there is so much shame and I had that at first. People used to talk about cancer like this..the big C in whispered voices. Your daughter is an active addict and I bet more people know that than you know. It is not shameful...it is what is happening. I for one am done hiding and secret keeping. If people..your family want to judge her..that's their problem. Chances are they know/suspect something anyway. Until people are open and honest about addiction its gonna remain the deep , dark secret that no one talks about..how does this help anybody. I realize I am clearly in the minority here as most people feel its private and nobody's business. If its' a disease why in 2010 are we still so ashamed?