Actually I live in a small town where everyone knows your business and lots of people judge. However, we have been here 20 years and are blessed with some very kind/understanding neighbors who are easier to talk to than some of our relatives.
My next door neighbor just asked about my D the other day and I told her that my D had not been doing well and was not living with us. She got it right away without my having to elaborate. She just said, "I'm so sorry," and gave me hug. I was glad she could be supportive/sympathetic without pressing for details or pushing her opinions/suggestions/views on me. Living next door, she might not have had a front row seat to my daughter's addiciton, but she was definirely in the balcony.