HI!
You are in the right place...so welcome..and please make yourself at home.
I would recommend reading the stickies at the top of this forum.
And also other posts in this forum...and feel free to post all you want.
You will find alot of experience, strength, and hope here!
Alcohol is a depressant..so it surely doesn't help with depression...it makes it worse.
I feel sure his therapist would have told him that, as well.
The lies sure point to alcoholism to me!
Alcoholism is a progressive disease..it gets worse.
Please remember what we call the three "C's"
You didn't CAUSE it.
You can't CONTROL it.
You can't CURE it.
Only he can get help, not on your schedule, but only on his own when and if he is willing and able.
So, the only thing you can do is work on your OWN recovery..because alcoholism is a family disease..it affects both you and your son negatively.
Have you ever attended an al-anon meeting or thought about it?
That would also give you face to face support with others who are in similar situations.
I haven't answered your questions.
I will look your post over again and see if I can think of anything else that you may find helpful.
Living with an alcoholic messed with my mind and wore me down like nothing else could.
It is very confusing.
I didn't know what to think..about anything.
SR saved my life!