I know this pattern and he will stay sober until i actually leave, then he will have no reason to stay sober because he only stops, or tries to stop when he wants something. I realize that because of that pattern, he could stop if he really wanted to, but he only does that to manipulate me and the world around him. I am so glad i don't have to play anymore. i can't control it, i didn't cause it and i certainly can't cure it!! thank goodness i really get it now!! i am looking forward to being able to leave in a few weeks!!