I tried to date my first XH after being separated...like you, it just didnt click even though I tried being "reasonable".
I remember well that last date (and drinking wasn't the issue)...but we went somewhere new to see the trees turn, walked around all day looking in shops and having a really nice lunch etc..holding hands
when we got back to town...he headed straight to a nightclub...I walked in, looked around and asked him to take me home...I knew that we just weren't on the same page and I didn't want to go where he was.
And I sure didn't want to kiss him good night.
That was the end of the line for me.