Honey, you can't fix him. It sounds like you are an enabler: you want to make everything right.
But you have to ask yourself how you would feel if someone was trying to control your life to the extent that you are trying to control his life.
My husband tried and tried to fix all my messes, but I just kept on drinking. It didn't help me to have a fixer upper.
In the end, I had to fix myself up.