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Old 10-12-2010, 07:04 AM
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Pelican
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I am sorry for your pain. I hope you are able to find resources in your community to assist you in your recovery. Would you be eligible for more services if you were living on your own?

With limited mobility, it will be difficult to attend local Alanon meetings for support. Help may be available if you call and ask about members living in your area.

You home does not sound like a place of peacefulness and healing. I agree with Chicory that your own health may require you moving your plans up if possible.

About the DDH, adult son and adult grandson:

You did not cause this
You can not control this
You will not cure this.

They are all of legal age to make decisions (good and bad) concerning their health, finances, and free time. Detaching from their choices may help you find your own serenity.

Alanon and SR have helped me to detach from the other adults in my family, my business relationships and personal relationships. I often repeat the Serenity prayer to myself to remind myself where my responsibilities are:

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change
The courage to change the things I can
The wisdom to know the difference.

Wishing you serenity and healing.
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