big bear hug mambo queen-
you are really goin thru it. but i agree with coyote, it's his choice and he is choosing this path, perhaps to death. i know it's hard to watch someone we love self-destruct, believe me i know. however, as you know, you can't stop it. you may be able to stop this or that, but in the bigger picture, we can not stop their path of self destruction.
take care of yourself, keep turning him over to your HP. SURRENDER. we are fortified thru sincere selfless prayer. christ said "give me your yoke, i will carry it."
sending you a big hug. take care girlfriend.
naive