Hi Everyone,
for being here for all of us!
Some of the hurts never go away but they are filed away in a place in my memory where they do come up now & then. I have finally learned how to deal with my emotions surrounding issues that cannot be changed and how to handle myself with the things I can change from a negative to a positive.
It is hard sometimes & I will find myself in a very sad mood...not really in a depressed mood. I have gone through some very traumatic times sober & did not pick up a drink so have made great progress that way.
All of our children are adults & have their own careers & life to live. We found out we couldn't save them from their own issues but could be there for them if they wanted to talk & they did. We have six grandchildren & have been a part of their lives as they have grown into teens & adults except for our youngest one who just turned 9.
The most important thing that I learned is that I had to take care of myself & get sober for just myself or it didn't work. I still get help for my depression from my doctor & if needed I see my counselor or the psychiatrist that handles my medications if needed.
I am in a sad place now realizing how old I am getting & that I can't do it all anymore. My husband is doing so much better so we just take it a day at a time.
kelsh