Originally Posted by
coyote21 
We have a slogan, the three A's, Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. You are aware, now. Next you have to really Accept the reality of your situation with you wifes drinking problem and all that entails.
When you have FULLY accepted the reality of your situation, your course of action will become clear.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
Coyote,
I’ve been trying to get my head around the acceptance phase you speak of…….
I accept that she has issues with booze and is an alcoholic.
I accept that I can do nothing to make her seek sobriety or stay sober.
Maybe what I need to accept is that me throwing more money at lawyers and counselors isn’t going to “fix” the problems in our marriage…in fact me doing anything right now isn’t going to “fix” our marriage…..
Contrary to her belief that the “ball’s in my court” I have stepped away from the whole court when I had her evicted. I clearly cited drunken irrational behavior as the reason for the divorce proceedings as well as cause for a restraining order.
I suppose I am being pulled back into the drama if I even respond because in reality the “ball” of her alcoholism is hers alone to deal with, and it must be dealt with prior to me undertaking anything else.
I suppose as usual I’ve put the “action” cart ahead of the “acceptance” horse.