Ok so he has anxiety which he is refusing to medically treat. ANd...? He is TELLING you he is not going to change when he gets a job. I also think it's interesting that you are so concerned he may harm himself and he just laughs at you..sounds like HE isn't thinking of harming himself..that's just your fears. Lots of us have kicked our adult children out without a dime..I did both of mine. TJP has..This MAN is being a terrorist with you (my AD tried this tactic as well) and You DO NOT NEGOTIATE WITH TERRORISTS..that's what the staff at my AD's rehab would say to her and I love it!If you kick me out, I'll make your life miserable..terrorist threat! I'm not gonna change, so don't think that..Terrrorist threat! I got tired of it..maybe you will too.