Chicory..you are fighting a losing battle. When you say he is is own worst enemy it is true, but by enabling him so much, maybe you are his enemy in a way too.I only say it this way so tha tmaybe you will see that by allowing him to stay , you are not only doing yourself a disservice, but him as well.He is allowed to be a manchild. He is almost 40 and the longer he goes on like this, the less of a life he's going to have. The old saying is true"sometimes its cruel to be kind". NO ONE is getting anything good out of this, you are both miserable. I belive even your daughters support letting him go, so there is support within the family for you. I know from experience that no dosage of antidepressants can make living with an addict child ok.Pleas don't feel this is mean spirited..I am sending you this with love..you AND your son deserve better.:ghug3