Hmm. Sorry..I honestly cant find another way that is clearer to ask the same questions, but I do think you've had heaps of other perspectives, great thoughts and advice here that probably jive with what you're looking for a bit better.
When kids are involved, and because they have absolutely no choice in who they are raised by and what they are exposed to in their homes.. I just like to pose the questions about what's being done to protect them. A lot of times the answer is 'nothing'.. but at least it's worth thinking about, in my opinion.