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Old 10-08-2010, 07:33 AM
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nodaybut2day
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Dear DM,

I sincerely hope you can see through his verbal B.S.

This is the ULTIMATE ploy to manipulate the hell out of you, play on your emotions, quietly threaten you, challenge you, demand silence of you, all in the name of Loooooooove. It's despicable.

Really, ask yourself if THIS is how you want to begin your married life.

I ask you this as a person who knowingly married an alcoholic because he pulled this exact same bullsh*t on me:
"Wah wah, you knew I had a problem before, you can't complain about it now."
"You don't trust in my POTENTIAL to get better"
"You don't have what it takes to be with me"
"You're not allowed to tell anybody about our *private* business"

I married him in city hall, with 2 strippers and a neighbour as witnesses, paid for the rings, paid for the wedding, and paid for the crummy lunch at a restaurant in a shopping mall afterwards. 2 years later, I got pregnant after giving into the same sort of manipulation.

Don't be me.

Don't spend months and years crying your eyes out before you are legally tied to someone who loves the bottle more than anything else.
Don't spead thousands of dollars on legal fees to separate and finally divorce him.
Don't spend nights and day worrying about the next stunt your STBX will pull
Don't spend years repairing your credit after your AH ruining it with his addiction
Don't spend a lifetime worrying what negative influence this person will have on the child(ren) you'll have together

The short and sweet answer to his verbal diarrhea is this:
No, sorry. I need more time.
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