I think you hit the nail on the head for me! I haven't actually left yet physically, but I am in the process and he is gone due to work and i see things very differently and can't wait to actually be gone in a few more weeks. Now that i've gotten an apartment and movers coming and i'm leaving physically, i see things very different emotionally and you are right...it is his madness and I do not have to partake! i love feeling the freedom from that. I am still cleaning up some of the mess i've allowed, but i am being sure not to do more than my share, like i would have in the past!! I can't wait to see things from afar, like you are.....you have confirmed what i believe in my heart to be true, finally!! i CAN get off this ride. Thank you for your post. it gives me so much hope and excitement! Good for you and for those who responded. you guys are awesome!!