Originally Posted by
Thumper 
I don't think it ever happens while they are still drinking.
What you say has also been my experience. But then, I'm digging into my subconscious to try to find a recovered alcoholic's example, and I just can't.
As an ACoA, my bio-dad did come to me to apologize for his wrongs, and he was somewhat specific. He left out a whole lot of what I had experienced, and he, to this day, continues to mow over the people in his life as a Dry Drunk.
With my RABF, he seems remorseful, true, but then I think I see glimmers of the same hurtful behaviors. He made a good point the other day, though. He said, "I'm not perfect, and I may do something that disappoints you; but I don't want to hurt you anymore."
I heard the words, but it's almost like I'm very pessimistic...just waiting for the other shoe to drop.
When I looked at those people in AA the other day, they couldn't possibly know it, but their words cut me to the bone. I resented each one of them.
