from pelican: The three steps of recovery are:
Awareness
Acceptance
Action
Yes the 3 A's - very important to remember when dealing with the 1 A!!!
And they go in that order - awareness - acceptance - action.
I know sometimes I have jumped the gun because as soon as I am aware of a problem I want to fix it! If I jump ahead of acceptance I usually end up hurting myself or others, or frustrated by my skewed expectations.
Acceptance is by far the hardest step for me....but it is only after acceptance that I can decipher what I can actually control in a bad situation and can then take action!
Peace-
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