I would also like to suggest that you go to the forum Adult Children of Alcoholics to see exactly what this is doing to your children and how it will affect them as adults:
Adult Children of Addicted/Alcoholic Parents - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Read the stickies and some of the threads there also.
Alcoholism is truly a 'Family Disease' and can affect many more than just the alcoholic.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing as we do care very much.
Love and hugs,