Old 10-02-2010, 01:02 PM
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Pelican
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Welcome to the SR family!

I'm confused about something. Your alcoholic husband (AH) is still actively drinking, but functional?

You are considering having him come back into your lives because his lease is almost up?

You pay all the family bills (financial secretary) out of a joint account?

Does your counselor or his counselor have experience in dealing with alcoholism?

What do you want to do? If this is as good as he gets, is this what you want from a partner?

Lots of questions, I know, but wasn't sure about what is going on in your relationship. It appears he left after you asked him to leave. He continues to drink and work and provide funds to support his family.

It appears you continue to run the household and support him by paying all the household bills. You get to speak with him as long as it's not personal and as long as it's convenient.

Please keep reaching out for support by reading and posting as often as needed. I need to ask you to please break up your posts with paragraphs in the future. It is difficult to read on a computer screen without breaks.
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