Originally Posted by
Still Waters 
This is certainly true of many relationships where alcoholism is present, but definitely not all. Nor are all spouses of alcoholics or addicts "adrenaline junkies".
Logically speaking, one can hardly assume that the word "all" or "everyone" can be applied to any human condition. Everyone doesn't even have to breathe...there are machines that can do this for us. OTOH....my work for several years required treatment of mostly spouses for codependency. I'm not just speculating. While generalizations always have exceptions....they are generalizations because they are more often true than not.
And I can hardly imagine an emotionally healthy person willing to remain in a relationship with an active addict/alcoholic for any length of time. (the operative word being "healthy") Sorry, but I'll stand on my POV....it takes two to tango.
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