Originally Posted by
nodaybut2day 
Let me get this straight:
She DOESN'T want your blessing to go out and get blotto. She'd rather have you be the disapproving wife EVEN though she'll just go on drinking her into an early grave.
Yep. I don't get it. I've been over and over that trying to figure out why she feels that way and the only thing I can come up with is that she knows her drinking is a problem but doesn't want to deal with it, and giving the blessing is me acknowledging that problem. Her refusing the blessing is avoiding that acknowledgment.