Welcome to the SR family evenkeel!
You will find lots of support for yourself here. We understand what it is like living with a loved one that chooses alcohol over quality time with family.
Here is some information that helped me understand alcoholism and how the body, brain and spirit become addicted. This is a link from one of our sticky (permanent) posts and it contains excerpts from the book "under the Influence" :
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
This is also from a sticky posts and contains steps we have taken along the way:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html
Make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed. We are here for you!