Recently I was at an Alanon meeting and someone said "if we are depressed we are in the past and if we are anxious we are in the future." Also the A New Earth book by Eckart Tolle helped me learn to focus on staying -in the present. The Abandonment book we are reading may help too. I had to get a divorce and one reason was there was no trust and another was no honesty. To thine own self be true.