Hurting: someone just emailed me this to me today and WOW is all I can say. This will help
SurvivingInfidelity.com - Support for those affected by Infidelity
They say that 95% of addicts end up cheating.
This is also from one of the post where I woman posts a part of a book about addicts and cheating.
"The Other Woman He Cheated with"
Enter the villan of the piece. In your eyes, she is the villan, but there is some predictability to this particular enabler. It may not happen to you. It may. It's not a threat to your marriage. It's a symptom of the disease. After all, you don't want to drink with him anymore. You don't want to go to bed with him anymore. You don't want to save him from himself. You know better. She doesn't. She feels she's the only one who understands him. He feels she understands him. And she will help him to get sicker. The best thing you can do is leave it alone. Do nothing to get in the way of it. His guilt will take over or she will put pressure on for a more permanent relationship. Neither of which is manageable for him"