((((hugs))) I know where you comming from, im also a child of a A, but my parents were divorced my AD died when I was 15, i dont drink, only on very special occoasions, my AH, was a RAH when we got married, you lucky u arn't married! but i rely soly on him for finances, which I can say are bad!!! I am unemployed 2 years, so im stuck, I also left for a few days when I though my AH had hit bottom, he stopped for 2 weeks, but is now back to it all and smoking again, which he has been off for 3 years, so life is a huge mess! I am sad. Only your BF can do it for himself, I feel for me, it is not for them, the 'us' family, but ONLY where and how they can LIE and DECEIVE for their next drink! It is so so sad.... But this is a chronic disease and we must learn how to detach (which for me is really hard!) I will pray for you and your kid. Put yourself first, dont involve family, nothing they can really do. Hope you find some good friends here at SR, pop into the ''Breakfast Club'' anytime