I'm reading a fascinating article about a "new" monogamy emerging more mainstream in our culture. It basically says that the hurt that comes up with cheating is linked to the deceit and betrayal, and that a lot of couples bypass that by having open and honest conversations about it. They then preserve the emotional, financial, familial, etc. aspects of their relationships while having sexual relations with other people that their spouse knows about and understands to be ONLY sexual in nature. There is no secrecy, no betrayal, no deceit...none of the ugly stuff that tears people apart inside, as many of us know all-too-well.
It's interesting, not sure how I feel about it. Not long ago this would have been a black and white issue for me, but if couples create an open, loving, supportive relationship with tons of honesty, who am I to say it's wrong? Plenty of couples report that it's working for them.
Hm. Food for thought.
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