I suggest the basics - no decisions until things calm down.
Exercise caution.
Talk to others, therapist, alanon, objective fam and fr.
Know that it will be worked through if both are working at it.
Take care of yourself! Eat when you can, sleep and get up and take a walk. Do one thing that you enjoyed doing before this.
Remember, it is only time before things clear up and you will sort out what to do - no rushing - it will all get done.