I'm sorry about your husband's downward spiral.
(((Wittss))) You have been through a lot lately. Please take care of yourself during this crisis. Reach out in your community for couselors that might be available for family members through the hospital and through the nursing home. Get support for face to face and we're here for your 24/7 cyber support!
For information on alcohol and how it affects the body, organs, brain and the mind - reading "Under the Influence" was an eye opener for me. Here is a link that contains excerpts from that book:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html