The problem with articles like this with relation to rape or being passive in relationships is it places the blame on the woman... yet again.
You can be who you are, how you are. Loud or quiet, soft or firm and you should never ever be assaulted.
It smacks of 'if she only did X than Y wouldn't happen' in cases of rape.
Wrong.
Sorry I had to say this because as women we need to embrace all our richness and use it to our advantage, not as a deficit.