Thanks for the book recommendation. I did my detachment refresher last night by pulling out Byron Katie's Loving What Is, and she says that things are either my business, your business or God's business.
Seems like it would be an easy thing to figure out what belongs to whom, but it isn't. However, it's such great reinforcement to read things like "When I think 'You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,' I am in your business." Reminds me to stay out of it and concentrate on my own business. I feel like I've been too much in AH's business lately, and I need to cut it out.
But, Jackthedog, you sound like you are taking what you are learning and applying it! Congratulations on those victories!