I hate to say it, but probably you should. Not that I myself would follow good advice for healthy choices. I've been trying to describe my inescapable fear to AH (over the phone, long distance) who wants to stay married, though our relationship bears almost no resemblance to a marriage. Ever since I've been back in frequent contact with him, I am scared all the time --feeling insecure, unsafe. . . In your case, it would be different if he hadn't gone back on his intention never to drink again. I mean . . .I would live with some insecurity and fear for awhile, if that commitment were there in his heart.