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Old 09-26-2010, 06:41 AM
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coffeedrinker
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Welcome to S/R, Caycee.

You have already discovered the good, good people who visit this board. Please stay engaged! You are already real to us, and we care about you.

I think putting the list down, and having some goals for your relationship and your life is a great first step! The trouble comes in when you have a list, tell him, and he still goes against your wishes. It is a set-up for disappointment and anger, and then you might start becoming the house police officer. For example, how does one prove that someone broke the "lying" rule? Exactly: you have to try and prove it, cuz he sure won't readily admit that he lied once again, esp after agreeing that he would not. It's an awful situation to be in; trust me I have. It ate me up inside.

Please update us! And make that difficult but empowering call to DV
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