Feeling sad for him....that's healthy.
Wishing him better days clean and sober....that's healthy.
Sitting on your hands to keep from rescueing him....that's healthy.
You should be so proud of yourself for these things!!
I am not at that point myself. I feel sad for my XABF and I can even muster wishing him wellness, but I can't sustain it. I feel no desire to rescue him no matter how dismal his situation were to become, and I know that is not out of healthy caring for myself and my recovering codependence, but rather the last remnants of bitterness over his choices and how they affected our lives. I have not forgiven him yet.
I hope you find a way to feel joy in your recovery despite the sadness his circumstances bring you.
Peace,
Alice