When I was lliving with AH he suggested we both go to councelling if we could find a free one. I told him that if he fixed it up I would be there. Of course I was still waiting for him to fix that up months later and I never brough the issue up or reminded him.
On reading these posts I am glad he didn't. I can well imagine how that would have turned out. In the whole of our marriage he never went more than a couple of days without drinking a minimum of 6 units.