Well of course these are the answers I didn't want to hear, but I will go with the concensus on this one.
It's seems so unfair that AH gets to live without a care in the world while I'm here picking up the pieces, and I guess it's just very tempting to try to recruit allies in this battle. But I know in the end his sickness will reveal itself to everyone around him and he'll eventually run out of options as he wears out his welcome with friends. I'll try to let go of this one and stop trying to force his hand.
Thank you so much for your responses. I'm so grateful for having found this board.