I have done councelling a few times too. The last time was when I found out about his internet affair which lasted over a year. He got to tell the councellor about how I didnt stick up for him when discussing our daughters, often becuase he was unreasonalble, and I got to appologise to him. When I tried to say that I didnt like that he had a Jeckyl and Hyde personality and had to tip toe around him (hadnt twigged on to the alcholism then) it got ignored.
Absolutely no point to councelling. Councelling is about communication skills, learning about the other persons wants and needs and being respectful to each others feelings. Alcohol, communication skills and respect dont mix IMO.