We have a drink on the patio every few nights after work, and I love when he will actually sit and spend time with me. He doesn't enjoy that time though, he does it just for me. He'll roll his eyes when I ask him if he's ready to sit with me. He has to go outside and smoke a cigarette 1st and then I can come out. The rest of the night I basically cook dinner, do my work (his notes) and then it's bedtime. He sits on the computer or watches sports. He'll talk if you talk to him, but will not engage in family activities such as games or movies.

He says he cares about me but he doesn't know why and it's the only thing that keeps him from leaving.