Hi, welcome to our world, one heartache and disappointment.
There really is not anything you can do to "make" her stop drinking. This is her problem to resolve. Have you sat her down and expressed your concerns? Have you suggested that she consider AA?
As far as the spending goes, it is just another facet of addiction, same for the lies.
Read the stickys, read others posts and most important keep postihng, we are here for you