Welcome to the SR family jd585!
You will find lots of information and support for yourself here. I recommend reading and posting as much as needed. I like reading in the permanent (sticky) posts at the top of the page. They contain some of our stories and lots of wisdom.
Is this a mountain or a molehill? I think you are seeing the red flags of a dangerous pattern. Alcoholism is progressive and it gets worse.
We understand.
We have loved ones that are/were addicted to alcohol.
I found strength and hope by attending Alanon meetings, posting here at SR, reading/researching alcoholism and some counseling with a social worker. Let us know how we can help you