I THINK THE PART ABOUT HER BEING AFRAID TO LOSE HER CHILDREN IF SHE GETS HELP IS CRITICAL AND MAYBE HOLDING HER BACK?????
No. I don't think so at all. Recovering alcoholics are the most catered to group of 'diseased' people on the planet. Just read the stories here about grandparents trying to get grandkids while the drunken or drugged up parent lies to the court about going to meetings or in rehabs.
If she were truly worried about losing her children due to her drinking, SHE WOULD STOP DRINKING.