Originally Posted by freebuthurting

What you have written sounds very very familiar to me. I think my AH would always be a dry drunk even if he stopped drinking for years. I am not sure there is a therapist out there who could fix him - but unless he seeks one out there is no way of knowing. I can't count the number of times I was called a bitch and I think that other word a couple of times too though he denied that one...pretty sure I heard it though.
The feeling that no matter how many times you say the same thing it will be ignored (whether about drinking or not) or that no matter how many different ways you make your point - he will always miss it....Frustrating beyond belief.