This is not news to anyone here, but I had to get it through my own head and heart, that there is NO reasoning with a drunk. Their thought process are not what one would call normal. They don't get it because they can't, I personally believe.
I fully understand the screaming, been there done that. They just push you so far with the nonstop craziness. I was starting to feel like I was the one that was losing it. Nope, its him.
I think that you will recognize recovery when you see it. The behavior will line up with the spoken words.
I wish you peace and happiness. H