hi Westbank and WELCOME to SR! This is a wonderful place to find support (and some off colour humour sometimes...). I hope you keep coming back.
Having read this thread and your posts, I have to say that though the job loss sucks balls, perhaps it's HP (or "God" or "the universe") giving you an opportunity to change your life radically. You've already shed that dead weight of a husband and now you can focus on finding a healthy workplace.
Also, I'd venture to say that your STBXAH (soon to be alcoholic ex husband) isn't as "happy" as he says. He may feel liberated from the person he thinks is "bringing him down", but I think it won't be long before he's unhappy again and blaming someone else for his troubles.