Welcome to the SR family!
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
When I seperated from my AH (alcoholic husband), I thought I would hear from him. I heard silence. He was finally able to do what he always wanted to do without interference: drink.
It was hard, but I was finally able to do what I needed to do: focus on myself and my recovery; and focus on making a better home for my children without the drama of active alcoholism.
It was hard, but I have found wonderful support and wisdom here at at Alanon meetings. They have kept me sane.
Your AH is trying to blame-shift. He is dumping all the blame onto you (trying anyway). He is trying to blame you for his drinking too. You don't own any of that. His drinking = His responsibility = His consequences.
The three C's helped me remember that:
I did not cause it
I could not control it
I will not cure it
I took steps to protect myself financially and legally from my AH's active drinking. Seperate accounts with blocks on my accounts (could only be accessed in person by showing ID), and consulting with an attorney.
Please continue to reach out for support. We care about you!