hummm, but can it not be a learning TRAIT...?? I have a relative( a mother) that was living with an alcoholic and the daughter picked up the mothers BAD parts of the relationship..the mother would lie, cheat...sneek, the whole thing...now the daughter is that way..everyday...I can not have a relationship with the daughter because everything that comes out of her mouth is CRAP...I dont believe her....and the problem...they all dont see any problems with this behaviour...grrr...