Yeah you're right, I definitely have been super manipulative to my XABF. I am no angel. I guess I was just asking because mine wasn't just manipulative about the alcohol, mainly about denying that he ever slept with a co-worker who was married. And when I asked would try to make me feel crazy. Once the truth finally came out he admitted that he would do all those things just to make me drop it. S0o0o I guess it's just all a means to get what you want.