Jen
I can relate so much to what you are going through. I moved from another state to be with my ABF who at the time told me he was in recovery. I stayed living with him for 2 years and suffered terribly. I too did not have a job and was trying to go back to school. Finally, the last straw broke and I had to get out. I found a job and started planning to leave. I have been in my own place now for about 4 months and it is so relieving not to be around him if I chose not to. My advice is to really start looking for a job to support yourself and get out. You can still see each other but you will be able to set boundaries for yourself that work for you. No, the things he says to you is alcohol talking, but it still gets weary real fast. I know the feeling, our house was not big enough for me to hide sometimes. Also keep in touch here. Sometimes this forum has been the one thing that kept me sane.